Behind the words

“Make it approachable to others”

Why understanding the basics are so important and how I needed to learn why does people did not get what I meant with what I was saying.

To reach fluency in anything that you learn it takes time to understand it at it very root. To be able to repat it just as it is play in a theather, that we as humanity agreed that we speak in a certain way. It kind of came up naturally, that English is beeing English, Polish, Spanish, all the langauges have a certain rules, and melodies. Somehow, songs in Spanish, for me have a completley different flow, than XVIII centry music, poetry, it all evolves, and we add up something from ourselves once we make more art.

It should be easy to understand. If you can describe pain in a way that is making it possible for other people to feel it, then you can make influence that you intended: Express how you feel.

It is the same with telling a joke, there is a right moment for everything, delivery is important, but we can use words to express feelings, thoughts, concepts, and if it is not in a native toung there is lack of full understanding.

For example:

With all the feelings, things, emotions, states that were going through my body, my eyes became a gate…

Kind of clear for me that tears were carring all the weight and in memories that were going with them it was going away…, but I guess that if you need to explain a joke it is not funny joke.

When you try your best but you don’t suceed

With everything that I was doing, I always wanted to be good at, because I was choosing things that I wanted. Naturally it was more fun for me to learn something that I was connected to, but I was setting myself into a certain outcome. I was preapering this one song heavy, deep, about inner battles, and I wanted to play it in a bar, I spended weeks, to memorize 7 minutes of it kind of complicated but, doable. And I was stressing every day, because all I heard, in feedback from people, that I don’t hold the rythm, or didin’t sanged in tonation.

So every time, that I was playing it alone, I felt fire inside, I can do it, it will make a difference, but I played it, and people started to walk out. I stoped in the middle, and couldn’t recover for a long time, because I felt that the delivery was not apropachable to others. What was keeping me going was curiosity, what are the extra layers of the same expirience, with more understanding.

(Almost like with new glasses, what’s more there is to see) - In the same event, but with different eyes.

And the more I was not able to comprehand why people don’t like what I play, the more I was feeling like giving up. Luckly for me, I was consistent, but I was slowly losing the fire inside to go for it. If it comes to guitar, I was slowly giving up, but in terms of human relations, I was seeing more and more, like this is not a song for a nice relaxing time, that is not what people were wanting to be around. So, even though what I wanted to play back at that moment, might have been great, no matter the deliverence it was not appropriate.

Same goes for what can be talked about, some people just bring this “Self-presence’ in the room, and naturally, not by any need to, but naturally, take over the attention of the whole room.

"Fluency in human relations”

Now everything that we don’t understand seems like magic.

Magic tricks - Math + Tempo + musle memory + showmanships

Making coffee - Tempo + muscle memory + delivery

Music - Math + Tempo + muscle memory + feeling

Paniting - Colors cobination, perspective

All of them can interpenetrate themesleves, the longer someone do a certain art, the more layers you can see. Lifes and certain things that are taking place are like movies. Like Forrest Gump, Kingdom of Heaven, Truman Show, they all have a certain dialog way of flow, natural for a certain movie, and script is written in a very American way, or hollywood way, if in a Pirates of Carrabians Forrest Gump would appear, it would just not fit the picture.

Just like me as I was not fitting the picture of guitarist in a bar, trying to perform a song, that was from completely different world.

This kind of understanding came to me after talking to thoustands of people in coffeeshops I worked for whole my life. it was taking time, for me to start feeling comfortable in most of the interactions, and trying to provide expirience to people I was serving. It Is not about the language you use, it is about the intention you use language you have.

And with trying your best, remember, that it takes years to master something, how can you expect to get something perfect at 10th attempt ?